Eight Years

The other day, my boss said that his son’s split from his ex was about eight years start to finish. Eight years before the harassment stopped. Eight years until they could finally relax and breathe. I have a solid six, almost seven years to go and with everyday I believe this eight year theory moreContinue reading “Eight Years”

What Kept Me Quiet

On Instagram, I follow a few women with similar stories to mine. A few weeks ago, one of them posted something that caught my attention. It was also something I struggled with, but I never fully understood how it impacted me. For the majority of my relationship, people would comment on how lucky I was.Continue reading “What Kept Me Quiet”

Sleepless Nights

I go through spurts where I can’t sleep. When I can’t, I do my best to not let my mind wander. Sometimes, I can’t help it. Recently, I learned of a couple who found out one was cheating, actually the whole town found out that one was cheating. For so many reasons I cannot getContinue reading “Sleepless Nights”

A Road To Success

This past week I finally earned a designation that I have worked so hard towards. Obtaining this designation was an obligation I had to fulfill when I accepted my current job, and it feels like a huge weight has been lifted. When I accepted the job, things were on the rocks with my ex butContinue reading “A Road To Success”

The Aftermath

This week has been exhausting to say the least. After my son’s grad and him showing up unannounced over the weekend sent me into a place filled with fear, and constant worry about what this sudden unpredictability means. Immediately after, I went into self-care mode in attempt to recover from the weekend. I was runningContinue reading “The Aftermath”

When Will it End?

After the graduation (last post) I was so proud that things went off without a hitch, meaning he didn’t storm off, he didn’t throw a tantrum and he didn’t get into a physical altercation. It was still clear that he was trying to assert power in many instances, but I had prepared myself for thisContinue reading “When Will it End?”

First Time Seeing the Ex in Months

I have been a bit quiet with my posts lately, I just can’t seem to find enough time in the day lately. As much as I love posting, and getting my thoughts out, this is the first thing that falls to the wayside when I get busy. Baby steps on self care right there. Yesterday,Continue reading “First Time Seeing the Ex in Months”

The Saga Continues…

This weekend as I was camping with my family, I received a text message from my ex’s new girlfriend. I could tell that I had done a lot of great work with my self care, as this didn’t upset me. I was able to respond to it, rather than react. I felt nothing. A bitContinue reading “The Saga Continues…”